Demand for Naked Men

Imagine if you had been watching Raiders of the Lost Ark or some other film on Cinemax one afternoon and then left the TV on that channel.  Maybe you don’t see the TV again for hours, but when you tune back in, the Cinemax channel is still on and is the first thing that you see.

The image on the screen shows a fully dressed, not particularly attractive or sexy woman, standing next to a man. The man has his back to the camera and is bent forward at the waist with his head near his knees.  He is wearing Khaki pants, but they have been pulled down below his knees, as has his underwear, and his naked rear-end is showing. In addition, his legs are spread at least a foot apart and the viewer is able to see the man’s testicles hanging between his legs. It is an erotic image of sorts, as the man is attractive and has nice secondary sex features which are currently on display.  The woman is playfully slapping his behind, which it is part of a comic routine.

I wonder how many people would have a problem with seeing that on TV, if images like that were allowed and even commonplace? My guess is, in America at least, quite a lot of people would have a problem with it, and I bet a lot of them would be male.  Yet, that particular little scene imagined above is certainly not any worse – and arguably not nearly as objectionable – as the scene I stumbled into the other night on Cinemax.

Cinemax has a habit of running regular movies earlier in the day and then later on in the evening switching to what undoubtedly people in the ‘industry’ would refer to as “soft-core” erotic adult programming, though this Femblogger would argue that term is misleading and the shows are as adult as you can get. Of course they only show female nudity, thus making them “soft” films, and hence they are assumed harmless -? (Is that the theory? Harmless to whom? These are very harmful to women).

The feature I stumbled unwittingly into was called Busty Co-eds vs. Lusty Cheerleaders.  On the info guide the synopsis of the movie read, ‘Gorgeous girls shake their pom-poms.’

I would like to point out that any teen age boy in the house is going to tune into any show with a title and description like that, and often they have even younger brothers who also may sit and watch too. More on that later below.

The scene on the TV when I was exposed to it showed two busty young fully naked white girls in the shower together, with a bottle of Hershey’s chocolate syrup that they were drizzling over each other playfully to a music soundtrack.  They giggled and laughed, rubbed each other’s bouncy breasts playfully with chocolate, and then they became aroused and started getting more sexual.  There was plenty of close ups of the girls licking and sucking each other’s nipples.

Movies like this are regularly and often on TV when I’m flipping around, or when I just turn the TV on. Now granted, not all households have Cinemax, but program providers bundle Cinemax with Stars, which is a perfect movie channel to purchase if you live in a family household. So for a reasonable fee, households get lots of movie variety over the Cinemax and Stars networks, and there’s even adult entertainment at night to boot.  So my guess is, Cinemax is in plenty of households that have kids.  And besides, even if it’s only guys 18 and older watching this stuff, what gives "entreprenuers" the right to go pornifying the hell out of women for entertainment-sales purposes while all women just have to live with it and deal with it, like it or not?

Why do women have to live our entire lives subjected to this shit just because boys and men are obsessed with sex and the female body?  It’s an outrage.

What if almost every day we all had to witness men’s naked and fully sexual anatomy in all our media exposure – from TV to films, to cable movies, to adult entertainment?  Or better yet, what if there was just more equal exposure of men, to balance out with all the ridiculous female sex and nudity we have to assimilate that is literally everywhere? Instead of always just showing women’s titties, and showing women having sex with each other, and women removing their panties, and women being fucked by a naked man but whose penis is inside her and thus we can only see her titties bouncing and slamming all over the place -- what if they started showing things like the scene at the top of this article too, in addition to all the female sexualization that is obviously never going away? (At least not without an act of Congress and women’s lobbying for it to happen it won’t, anyway).

What if seeing erections was allowed on cable TV?  Is that any different than seeing a woman’s breasts being suckled by another woman, her nipples being twisted in the acrylic-nail clad fingers of her college roommate?  I know people are likely to say, “well, if you are going to show naked erections, then you have to also be allowed to show full spread-eagle shots of a woman’s genitalia too” but to that I disagree.  It’s certainly not equal now, with women’s huge breasts and huge nipples allowed to be shown, and girl-on-girl sex, and men eating out women’s pussies (I saw that scene later in the same Busty Co-ed movie), yet still to this day the only erotica the male body is used for is a naked butt shot as he’s pounding her.  And with all the girl-on-girl sexual scenes that proliferate TV and Internet porn, there are hardly any naked men to look at anywhere.  The point is, it has been unequally biased to show women naked, and not men, for going on 50 years now, so I think we can show some erections without saying it’s ok to show females spread eagle.  Penises are more like breasts – fleshy, bouncy appendages that are uniquely sexual in nature and are easily visible when viewing a naked person from the front. They should be treated equally.

If two girls can rub chocolate syrup all over each other in the shower and lick each other’s nipples clean, then two eighteen year old boys with fine, straight cocks and tight slender hard-bodies can be shown with erections, playing ring toss with each other.  After all, the show would be labeled TV-MA, so only adults would see it, right? And what’s wrong with wanting to see the male sex for once on TV? Or more than once. 

But a bigger question is, why are women still just sitting back and letting guys have all the sexual entertainment they could ever want and dream up, and they keep manufacturing it and  putting it out there, into our lives, and we are supposed to just accept it and deal with it?  Meanwhile, we still have to go to work every day with all the guys who spend their spare time watching this shit.  And we still have to put up with the sexist and unrealistic portrayals of women that these types of movies instill in the human psyche.  I don’t know a single woman, myself included, who would take a shower with their girl buddy in the way that film depicted, but the proliferation of these types of “soft-core” movies that inundate multiple cable channels on TV always show that this is how women are.

It IS a violation of our rights that women have to live in a world where a women’s twat or her breasts is just art, money, seduction, sex and a fact of life and anyone who wants to pander it for money or who wants to watch it for entertainment is welcome.  At the very least, we have the right to have erections and hot male youth pandered to us accordingly then, if this is how it’s going to be.   Are women ever going to wake up and see this sexual imbalance between men and women for the huge problem that it is? On so many levels female sexualization in media – particularly the huge porn epidemic we are currently experiencing – is wrapped up with issues such as domestic violence, sexual violence against women, unequal career opportunities, cultural biases, low self-esteem issues for women, marital infidelity and/or unhappiness, depression and more.

Is it really worth it to just keep letting men make as much porn about us as they want and put it everywhere and make it so ubiquitous that by the time a boy is 15 years old, he’s already seen more naked female sex than his mother will ever have seen of male erotica and sexual male nudity in film in her entire lifetime?